Fetish or Kinky?

When does a fetish or kinkiness become an obsession?  When an obsessive sexual thought becomes unhealthy or when it takes over your everyday thoughts.  Of you are spending your day online in chat rooms talking about your desires then you may have some problems that need fixing

Many people see BDSM strictly in terms of domination and submission but it covers a whole range of different interests. 

For example some people might just be into rubber fetish or high heels or perhaps they are pain sluts/masochists who just like hard CP. 

An example I can give may turn a few stomachs but it’s a very common fetish and that is scat.  Some people see it as the ultimate submission, others see it as the ultimate humiliation, and others may see it as an extreme fetish.  Either way my view it’s a VERY unhealthy one.  It might be ok to have sexual fantasies about it, but it is certainly unhealthy when it comes to actually practicing it just for health reasons alone!  I have CURED a number of so called wannabes either in session or through coaching, making it clear that it is not a healthy fetish to be pursued however appealing  or unappealling it looks. 

On the other hand there are many healthy fetishes that people have that people have but are so guilt ridden or there are taboos over they never come to terms with them.  An example may be a man who is really into foot fetish.  His wife is pretty dominant, they have a great sex life but she is uncomfortable with her feet and he feels terrible bringing up the subject for fear of being a pervert. 

Go buy her a foot spa.  Make a point of buying her vouchers for pedicures.  Tell her how lovely her feet would look and introduce her to massage.  It won't be too long before he's on his knees licking in between those toes and she’s having the time of her life. 

Kinkyness on the other hand might be someone who just likes having their bum spanked when they have a wank, or perhaps they have a fantasy about being done with a strap on by a latex clad spider woman.  Now thats Kinky! LOL

If for example you can ONLY have an orgasm by hanging 5 kilos of weights from your scrotum and giving yourself a hand-job with half a tube of deep heat, wearing a gas mask with half a ton of poppers.  You might seriously have a problem and might need to do a bit of work on yourself.  Failing that you'll end up with a massive hernia or be rushed off to casualty!  Try explaining that one.  It reminds me a local man that had an obsession with vibrators and one of them got stuck up his bum and he had to go to the doctors to have it removed.  A joke went around the hospital that he told the nurses not to bother taking it out but to just change the batteries.

On a serious note, Yes ! there are lots of fetishes and Kinks out there and NONE that will shock me and NO I won't laugh.  You can talk openly and honestly with me and I might even get you started on something with your partner that you never dreamed of.